Back in 2011, I realised I needed to take stock of my life.
I felt lost and confused.
I was in a job I hated, a relationship that wasn’t going anywhere, and a life that had no purpose.
I had no idea how I had gotten there, and what I was to do next.
Like a lot of people, I had followed the path that was expected of me – work hard at school, go to university, and get a good job.
I did just that, and for over 10 years I had been working in the construction industry as an Architectural Technologist. I’d got a great job in a good firm and worked on a range of projects with a brilliant team of people.
But for me, it wasn’t enough. It wasn’t what I wanted.
I had to take stock of my life and find out what I should do.
Maybe this is where you are right now. Maybe you’re at a fork in the road.
You have no idea how you got where you are and you’re confused as to where you go next.
My experience has taught me that you need space to take stock of your life.
Spend a weekend by yourself in a quiet place, away from the hustle and bustle of everyday life. Reflect on your life and what you really want from it.
Write down where you are in your life, in every aspect. Financial, family, friends, career, hobbies,etc.
Brainstorm how you would like your ideal lifestyle to look like.
Where would you like to be in 5 years time?
What will you be doing?
Who will you be with?
Once, you have an idea, start planning how you are going to get there.
Keep the momentum going and take action today.
If you find it difficult to find your momentum, or you start to lose focus, read through the regrets that people have had about their life. Some may surprise you!
Use these to fire yourself up and get moving towards your dreams and goals.
“If only I had stopped pleasing other people so much, I would have lived my dreams and been true to myself”
It’s only on reflection that people realise that they gave up or changed their dreams in order to please other people and their expectations.
A lot of their dreams have gone unfulfilled because of the choices they have made.
They were so busy trying to make other people happy and accepting of them, that they never thought how this would affect their own dreams and aspirations.
Don’t let this be you.
Don’t compromise your life and your dreams for someone else.
Try and live your life how you want to live it.
Follow your dreams.
“If only I’d kept in touch with my friends”
People get caught up in life. It’s only when they had time to think about it, that they realised that they let a lot of good friendships pass by and found out how much they missed them.
We let friends go in and out of our life because we don’t give them the time and effort to keep them going.
We need to realise the true importance of friends.
Look at your relationships. Are you spending enough time being a friend or are you just passing through life and letting them go?
Do you really want to be alone?
“If only I didn’t work so hard”
People realised too late that they spent so much of their lives working and not enough time with their loved ones.
They missed out and sacrificed moments which could have been spent with their partners and seeing their children growing up.
Life shouldn’t be about working so hard that you miss things.
Take a look at your life. Are you working too hard? Are you trying to keep up with other people?
Simplify your life.
You don’t have to work hard just to get more stuff.
Work more efficiently to create a life you desire, where you can spend more time with your loved ones.
“If only I had the guts to say what I wanted”
People recognised that in order to keep the peace in life and with people, they didn’t fully express their thoughts and feelings, but by not doing so, they were never really honest with themselves.
They never became who they were truly capable of being and therefore settled for a mediocre life.
If you don’t fight for what you want, you will always be resentful of the fact that you settled in life. You will always be thinking about what could have been.
From now on, try and be true to yourself and speak honestly.
If something is annoying you or you have an issue with someone, speak up about it, because otherwise it will just keep eating away at you.
Be open, honest and polite in what you say, and don’t settle for less in your life.
“If only I had let myself be happier”
Happiness is a choice. Its only when you reflect back that this is realised.
People stay stuck in a routine of comfort. They are familiar with it and don’t like change.
But this fear of change has led them to pretend that they are happy with their life and that they are contented, but in reality they long for something different.
They stay in a life which they don’t like.
Don’t be one of these people. Make changes.
Do something that makes you happy and let go of what other people may or may not think of you.
Be everything that you want to be.
This is your life and no-one else’s.
Don’t regret your life and your choices.
Take stock of your life today and start building a life you want and truly desire.