Comparing yourself to others is a part of human nature.
According to research, we compare ourselves with others in order to make an accurate evaluation of ourselves and where we are in life.
Although it can be a great source of motivation and growth, it can also be an unhealthy habit to get into.
You may start comparing yourself to others in lots of different situations, whether it’s at work, at an event, or just passing by someone on the street.
However, one comparison that you may start to do more often, is in regards to your business.
You may notice that you comparing yourself to the many fantastic businesses out there.
It seems that comparing yourself to others has two sides to it.
On one side, you become inspired by the person and what they have achieved. This keeps you motivated and you think, if they can do it so can I. You aspire to be better and want to be like that to.
The flip side is that you see how brilliant they are and all the successes they have and this makes you feel deflated. You think that you will never be able to achieve it. You don’t feel good enough.
The positive aspects, like motivation and inspiration, are brilliant to have, but most of the time we fall into the trap of comparing ourselves negatively and this is what we have to be careful of.
Its a bad habit to have and its one that can cause some serious emotional issues.
So that being said, here are a number of shortcomings that comparing yourself to others has.
You Damage Your Sense Of Self
Comparing yourself with others creates feelings of envy, low-self confidence and depression. You devalue yourself and others.
Comparisons Are Unrealistic
People are never what they seem. They will always present an unedited version of themselves.
The truth is that no one really wants to say what’s going on in their life. They don’t want to say if they have marital troubles, or debt problems, or feelings of inadequacy, or they hate their job. They’re going to keep it all rosy.
Comparisons Are Unfair
We usually compare the worst we know of ourselves to the best we presume about others. We see their positive side rather than the negatives they portray.
It Is Time-Consuming And Ineffective
Comparing yourself to others robs us of our time. It doesn’t help us grow and it doesn’t make us feel any better.
There Is No End In Sight
If you are comparing yourself to others to evaluate your worth and your success, you will always be losing. You will never reach a point where you are better than others in every way. You will always come up short.
You’re Focusing On The Wrong Person
Your life is the one that matters and the one that you can control. By constantly comparing yourself to others, you are wasting precious energy and time focusing on their lives rather than your own.
Comparisons Make Us Feel Like Crap
We devalue all the good things that we have achieved. We focus on everyone else and feel resentment towards them.
It Takes Away Our Joy
Comparisons distract us from life and all that is good. It adds no value, meaning or fulfilment to our lives.
“Comparison is the thief of joy” – Theodore Roosevelt
It Can Stop Us Achieving Our Dreams
When we compare ourselves to others, we are hard on ourselves. Our drive is lost and it decreases our passion and motivation. This is the downward spiral that eventually leads to you giving up on your dream.
“The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel” – Steve Furtick
What can we do instead?
How can we break this habit?
- Be aware of your own successes. You are unique and have a set of your own unique experiences and successes.
- Dedicate your time and energy to your own values and your own life. Stop worrying about everyone else’s.
- Pursue the greater things in life, like love, generosity and selflessness. They are far more valuable and meaningful than society’s definition of success.
- Be thankful of all the positive things in your life.
- Find inspiration and learning from others.
- Don’t allow yourself to use someone else as a benchmark for your own worth. Instead, redirect your energy and attention to your own goals and what is required to achieve them.
- If you need to compare, compare with yourself. Instead of trying to be as good or better as others, we should only strive to be the best version of ourselves. Commit to growing yourself, physically, emotionally and spiritually, each day.
“Why compare yourself with others? No one in the entire world can do a better job of being you than you” – Unknown
And remember, you are on your own unique journey.
The experiences you have are completely unique to you and you are able to create the success that you want.
It’s time to turn the tables round, and decide who you want to be and what you want to achieve.
I’d love it if you could share your thoughts in the comments below.